Spiritual Avoidance

Spiritual avoidance is when someone operates purely from the higher chakras and disconnects her/him/them-selves from the lower chakras. Basically, someone disconnects from reality and escapes through spirituality and being "out of the body". You can see this a lot in spiritual communities, people who habitually journey into the ethers to avoid confronting themselves head on. Sometimes these types of people who forget that there's more work to be done and instead, sustain by absorbing high vibrational frequencies from high vibrational environments and drain other high vibrational people, but often don't do the real work. Meaning, they actually can't self-sustain their vibration without depending on something to carry them. Some people opt for this type of dissociation without meaning to, and that leaves you susceptible to being taken advantage of by other people and swept away in issues, energies that aren't yours.

Spirituality should never be used as a bandaid. It feels great to be in our higher chakras sometimes, to dissociate because it feels light up there, but eventually you're going to be brought back down. However high you go, you'll experience the equal effect downward, and sometimes it can be violent and even more traumatic. By going up in the higher chakras you are imbalanced. Many MANY spiritual teachings advocate for this type of transcendental approach, whereby your body is shameful, emotions are wrong and that for true mastery, we need to only be in spirit.

We are here on earth for a reason. Our spirits know this, so why leave the body? The most important thing you can do is to remember to ground. To stabilize, to always ask yourself what's real on this spiritual journey. What is real to you? How do you really feel? It's not healthy to constantly defer to love and light and continue to keep our hearts wide open to be drained and used. It's not okay to be soft, giving and peaceful ALL THE TIME in a world that's not any of those things and will eat you alive if you have no ego whatsoever. It's not okay to forget that we have anger, or frustration, or lower vibrational states. It's also not okay to think we've "moved beyond it". It's part of the human experience: basically, never forget you are human and that you have an ego because you need it to survive. True mastery, in my words, is learning what your ego is, all the shadow aspects, repressed and discarded elements, putting it back together and putting a leash on it. So instead of it controlling you, you control it.


Upon viewing Himalayan Buddhist tapestries, I initially thought the figures that looked like demons to be just that: demons. They were lower than the hero, who is usually buddha, seated in the center of the piece as if disrupting him, encircling him. I consulted a break down of the various elements of the art. In fact, the demons were called "protectors"

They are light beings who are there to protect the hero under the guise of antagonizing him.

I ask you to keep this in mind in your own life.

Recently, I met a wonderful woman who was suffering from a heavy heart. She lost something she wanted- a promotion. She was so close to getting it but many of her coworkers went behind her back and voted against her. She was grief stricken of course. As we talked, she told me that when it had first happened, a friend said to her, "What if you found out that those people were actually angels in disguise? They kept you from an opportunity that wasn't right for you,"

She said that changed everything for her. What she initially saw as backstabbers were actually there serving the purpose of protecting her from something that could have harmed her, or gotten in the way of her destiny.

I've written about this in the past. Although I was grief stricken from losing an opportunity that I was sure was my calling, at the time, with perspective I now understand why it was that many people in my life tried to acknowledge that it was a blessing. At the time I dismissed their words thinking they were just trying to absolve me of pain and trying to find meaning in something destructive, but as I've ventured further in my spiritual journey I have come to find that indeed


We cannot evade pain. Ascension is not comfortable. Every day it is uncomfortable. We experience pain in our process of growth, that's why it is called a growing pain. In retrospect, every event that either did not work out the way I wanted it to or that put pain in my way has been something that has allowed me to grow tremendously. 

When someone gives us SHIT. They are really giving us lemons. And as the adage goes, you must make lemonade. Otherwise what the hell are you doing sitting in a pile of lemons.