ALL of us are guilty of this- we have a set standard to which we strive to be. To function, we need to have this. This is the amalgamation of what others have deemed appropriate. To put it simply, this is the ego.
The EGO has a standard of perfection. Even if you aren't a perfectionist, you can still define perfection. The key is recognizing that even though EVERYONE CAN define perfection, everyone defines perfection differently.
So even if you live by your own version of perfection, most others will not see you as such. What is perfection? It is pure ILLUSION. If you live in your own illusion of perfection, you feel impenetrable. You're living life the right way. You must be- WRONG.
When we examine what it is that we believe is perfect and how we adhere to it, we can easily let go of it. These are restrictive patterns that we must let go of. Instead, we need to establish VALUES. Instead of perfection centered living, we become value centered. Instead of judging ourselves and others for upholding perfectionistic ideals, we sort them into our values to have a deeper understanding of how they function. We don't look at the surface anymore, we look deeper at the truth. If someone is in their own truth and it violates our own, we no longer need to share space with that person. It's always a choice, but we need to respect other people's truths and hold them accountable to such living. That is the only standard.
There seems to be a discrepancy: why is it that for the law of attraction to work, we must clearly know our objective
YET the catch is not to send too much energy towards that outcome, because by doing so we attach to it which will chase it away and extend too much of our life energy?
How do we set our goals clearly yet adhere to the Zen Buddhist mentality for success, which is to LET GO and detach from outcome in order to achieve it?
In my studies of metaphysics and spirituality, I've come across many contradictions so I'm here to solve them as best as I can in the most digest-able way I can.
ANDDD the answer to success is SURRENDER. To know clearly what it is you want, to sent the intention towards them, but to also let GO after this step in the process. To be OKAY with not receiving it and giving your faith over to the higher order- to know in your heart and mind that if it's not in your divine plan, that it's alright, you accept what will come.