As someone who chronically did things for others to help them, I recently came across an earth shattering truth: sometimes it's more important to be, than to do.
By being in your most powerful self, most centered self, unconsciously you liberate someone else more than you can by trying to do the ground work for them. You can't change a person, only a person has the power to do that themselves if they want to. You can certainly support a person through their trials, but by doing the work for them you increase the risk of them being dependent on you- and that can often become draining, depleting, AND cut the other person from their own resources and life force.
If you come as your most liberated self, your energy inspires other people to do their own work too because they see that something more is possible.