When we blame others for triggering us, we are still in victim mentality.

The truly neutral person does not have triggers. Comments are innocuous and NEUTRAL.

When we DO have triggers, we must realize what that trigger is, and its origins. This is a wound we still haven't healed, that's why the pain is so acute. 

We must thank others for showing us where those wounds are because through their identification, we are allowed the opportunity to examine and achieve self-mastery.

If we BLAME them for triggering us, we push the responsibility for our self-mastery onto THEM. What this reveals is a festering wound. No one wants to walk on egg shells. 

We cannot train others to protect our ego. We must do it ourselves by maturing our ego. 

If we only accept those of whom protect our ego, we live in a world of lies.